We are not born with trust. Trust
has to be earned.
The Human Lie
We all wonder at times if people
are telling the truth. Next time you’re in doubt, look for these
body language signs: nervous restlessness, wringing and
clinching of hands, contradiction of composure, looking calm
with a nervous voice or vice-versa, shifting of the eyes,
sincerity of laughter.
The Eyes have it:
Gamblers use the information
written above all the time in Poker. They are called “tells.”
One of the most commonly used “tells” is the dilation of the
pupils. If they get big, it usually means the player is excited
because he holds a good hand.
If the gambler raises his bet and
his pupils are small, that means he’s probably bluffing.
The understanding of the pupil
dilation can also be used every day. Although it varies from
person to person, you can use it as a measuring instrument to
gauge how people around you feel. Next time you’re not sure
about someone being attracted to you, check the size of his/her
pupils. It might be a good indicator. It can also work for
salespeople, they can check your pupils to see if you’re excited
about a product.
Bad first impressions can be
rooted in truth and are hard to overcome. Appearance, posture,
facial expression, and dress are important, so the next time
someone says, “you can’t tell a book by its cover,” ignore it.
Recent studies have proven that
first impressions are accurate 67% of the time. It is considered
to be a trustworthy sixth sense. It can increase to almost 100%
accuracy once we hear the person talk.
So remember what they say, “you
only get one first impression.”
People underestimate how much we
can learn from a simple handshake. Here are some interpretations
of my favorite squeezes:
#1: The dead
handshake is the most confusing of all.
Often times it is taken as a sign
of shyness, but that is not always the case. The person in fact
may not be feeling well, doesn’t like you, is depressed, or has
a general lack of interest in your acquaintanceship. When
faced with this shake, revert back to other body language
signals to make an assessment. The other handshakes are much
more reliable and informative.
#2: If the
handshake is quick and abrupt, the person
is asking for a formal
#3: A person who
grips your hand as
firmly as you grip
says he/she wants to cooperate.
#4: The enthusiastic
firm handshake says: “I’m confident that I am the boss
around here.” If during any of these handshakes someone
ticklesyour palm with his/her finger, keep a good eye on“it,”
and don’t let your pupils waver.
A man was sitting at a bar
smoking a cigarette.
Every time he exhaled, the lady
sitting behind him would politely cough. After an hour he had
enough and turned to her and said: “Lady, you sure aresensitive,
I smoke two packs of cigarettes a day and don’t have a cough
Public scrutiny of smokers has
become so overwhelming to some that they are now fighting back.
They don’t care about second hand smoke, they want to inhale the
first hand. They believe anyone can stop smoking, but it takes a
very strong will to face lung cancer. When convictions and
addictions mix, you know there is going to be trouble.
They have drawn the line at
airline no smoking policies. After the captain has turned off
the seat belt sign, the smokers go straight to the toilets. They
moisten a paper towel that they pat around until it sticks over
the detector. Smokers can take four or five big puffs without
causing any problems because they exhale into the sink that has
a suction device. They even dispose their cigarette down the
drain. The only exposure to getting caught occurs when they
leave the restroom. If no one is around, they are home free. If
someone is waiting at the door, they cough and say in a low
serious voice: “Damn it, someone has been smoking in there.”
The airplanes do not have cameras
in the restrooms, so it’s very difficult to prove who was
smoking. Due to many unpleasant experiences with confrontation,
airline employees have learned they are not getting combat pay.
So generally the worst they give is an ominous warning that
comes to nothing. After all, some say that second-hand smoke is
Twenty-First Century Phobias
We have all had super glue
stick our thumb and index finger together for a fraction of a
second until we pull them apart. Super glue was invented to seal
wounds quickly in Vietnam; it’s more skin friendly than you
might think. You can wait longer than a fraction of a second and
still pull your fingers apart.
If you have cavities and I
chew tin foil, it will creep you out.
Let’s say you’re sitting at a
park bench and a maintenance worker unexpectedly starts a
behind you, it will make you